Normally I am a very very deep sleeper. And that is because I usually work hard during the afternoon right up to around midnight. Usually, once I close my eyes at night, not even Armageddon’s Seven Trumpets from the Book of Revelations can wake me up. The only contender is the morning sun. But then, for no apparent reason today, I’ve just woken up from sleep and it is barely half 2 in the a.m.
My first thought was, ‘I must be starving.’ But nah, not this time. Next thought, ‘I probably need to take a midnight leak.’ But you see, that wasn’t the case either. And then it finally hits me like a truck in the face; it is goddamn colder than Antarctica in this bitch. I turn around to see if the windows are open but they’re shut tight. I feel my duvet to see if it had gotten any thinner overnight but it’s still damn fluffy. So I then ask myself, ‘Why in the hell do I feel like I just woke up from a cuddle with a Frost giant?’
Well the answer is simple; Cuffing Season is around again. There are many definitions for cuffing season that all mean the same thing. But for those of you want a concise explanation, here is a little snippet straight outta the online Bible – the Urban Dictionary.
“During the Fall and Winter months, people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” – or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.”
So like the selfish person that I am, I’m sitting here thinking, “Well I need to reevaluate my priorities right now, or it’ll be another cold ass winter.”
- TO CUFF OR NOT TO CUFF.
I realised by simply listening and observing, that this period is characterised by one of four things (in no particular order):
- Increased use of dating apps
- Higher gas bills
- In the case of women – little less attention to shaving legs.
- Tendency to turn what was supposed to be a hookup into an actual relationship.
A lot of singletons and couples alike will relate to at least one of the above. But a very real problem now exists – and it is the fact that Cuffing Season is a seasonal trend.
Trends come and trends go. This goes true for fashion, music and any other urban trends that exists today. But with cuffs, we are dealing with a very human need to connect and be intimate with another person. Human basic needs have not evolved at all since the beginning of time: Food, Clothing and Shelter. I’ll add another one – Love.
The need to not feel lonely drives some people into desperation. And this leads to people deceiving others into ‘cuffing’ without any real intention to commit in the longer term. I believe it is absolutely okay if both partners clearly communicate their needs and know where they stand. But simply deceiving a partner into cuffing, and then disappearing like a deadbeat dad in Spring is simply cold-blooded. Even reptiles are not that cold. But I do not think it is any surprise to anyone that this happens a lot.
As humans, we have a capacity to manipulate that far surpasses other creatures. Shit, we’ve all told lies to get to places, and we still do. It is what we do. But whether or not it is worth deceiving someone for a temporary cuff is an entirely different matter. Is it really worth gaining someone’s trust just to get cuffed, with a preconceived plan to end it later? Or are we better off clearly communicating to the other partner early on? I will like my readers to discuss this below.
Still, let this not distract you from the fact that I might still go out there and try to cuff somebody… with noble intentions!!
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